Men come from Mars and women from Venus (I still have no idea what that really means) but the point being that both genders are very different in a myriad of ways. Which also holds true in design – for the most part. Yes, I know there are guys that love floral and ruffles, and yes there are women that love distressed leather and industrial accents but typically we find that guys and girls differ a bit in their tastes (ahem…. or lack there of). Typically this doesn’t cause too much of an issue and for the most part, both parties can go about their business without any interference. But, there are some things that can create an even playing field that both can agree on especially when it comes to bedroom design (which is where they both have to sleep every night) so let’s chat through a few of those before I see one more room with floral throw pillows that the dude despises and the woman obsesses over.
Neutral Palette: If there is one design mistake that is made more than any other it is not sticking to a defined color palette. The color scheme of the room sets the tone for the room and helps you make all other decisions from there. The problem that men and women face is that there are stereotypical colors for both genders. The ladies, for example, tend to like softer colors where as men tend to prefer bolder ones. Who knows why we tend to gravitate towards those, and yes I realize that I am somewhat stereotyping us into categories for the basis of this post, but choosing a hue that suits both of you can be difficult until you realize that impartial colors exist. Hi neutral walls. Women, please don’t paint your bedroom purple or bright pink as 9 time out of 10 it is probably not your husbands/partners favorite color. And Husbands don’t throw dark gray on the walls and assume he/she will be ok with it. Opt for a more approachable and calming tone like a white or cream shade. Those shades are neither girly or manly, which makes it the perfect option for both. Next up are the accessories. Ditch The Throw Pillows: TBH I love a good throw pillow but the majority of straight men hate them. They find them pointless and annoying and although they may appreciate the fact that you have 78 throw pillows to put on the bed every morning to make it look nice, I am sure they hate ripping them all off before crawling into bed at the end of the night. For a while the throw pillow trend in the late 90’s/early 2000’s got out of control and the use of excess pillows was almost nauseating. Thankfully people are getting a little more refined with them and have edited it down from 12 pillows to 1 or 2 but for the most part men still hate them because they serve no purpose, yet women like them because they look pretty (which I totally get). But ladies, there are plenty of ways to improve the aesthetics of the bedroom without hoarding all those soft little squares so it’s time for them to go. Involve Them In The Decisions: Some guys could care less about helping out in the design realm of things so skip this paragraph if it doesn’t apply to you. But, there is a lot that you have to decide on before the room comes together and you have a comfortable, relaxing place for both of you to enjoy. But, just because your guys says he “doesn’t care” doesn’t mean that one person has more of a say than the other person. To ensure that the room stays neutral and enjoyable for both, you need to make decisions as a team. So, if someone prefers an oversized tufted headboard or an iron bed like one of these from Serene Furnishings you have to compromise and find a middle ground. I am no relationship or design expert, but there is definitely a bit of give and take just like with any relationship. Listen to me… I sound like Dr. Phil. Add Personal Items From Both People: Giving each person a place to have their own personal accessories will go worlds in helping both feel included and like they are at home, whether that is a piece of art that you have always loved, or an inherited piece from your grandmother, or a photo. Find some space for each of you to have your own special things in the room. In this case above, they obviously thought it was chill to style a diet coke can on the side table, but the room still manages to stay inspiring, gender neutral, and calming so I am into it. Now pass the Dr. Pepper